It is very common of an addict to be in denial of their addiction. Admitting that one has an addiction means admitting that they have a weakness, and people do not like to do this. People also do not like to ask for help, which is another integral part of admitting to addiction. In order to recover from addiction, the addict needs to learn how to receive help from an addiction specialist and from their personal support system. Recovery is not meant to be something you do alone.
The first thing you should do in your addiction recovery is receive professional help. Your loved ones are there to support you and you will critically need them as you recover, but when your recovery is in its infancy, it needs to be nurtured by a professional. Do not hesitate to reach out to the services of a professional detoxification center for substance abuse, and a residential rehabilitation center to begin an addiction treatment plan. Addiction counselors and mental health professionals will help you discover the underlying reasons for your addiction problems so that you can overcome them, but you have to be a willing participant in order for it to work.
Once you have received the help of addiction professionals in getting through the most critical parts of your addiction, you need to learn to receive help from the support systems in your life. This is typically your family and friends. In a majority of cases, it was the addict’s family and friends that wanted them to enter addiction treatment, and they will be very responsive to the addict’s needs for support and adjustment to their lifestyles. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a good support system though. Sometimes addiction or negative reinforcement comes from within the support system, in which case, the addict needs to find a new support system. Overtime, the addict will learn how to trust, care for and respect themselves, while still accepting love and help from their support system.
An amazing thing happens the moment you decide to stop serving your addiction: you liberate yourself. True, you may relapse and backslide more than once, but in the decision to fight your addiction comes the seed of hope that will enable your recovery. Do not be discouraged if you break your recovery. Failure is nothing but a chance to start again with a better understanding.
When you first discover the thing that you will become addicted to, you have a love affair with it. You believe that the object of your addiction could never possibly do you wrong, and indulging in it will bring you nothing but good feelings. Soon enough, though, the addiction begins to turn on you. People in your life notice a change in you. They wonder why you are not acting like yourself. Those who know what your addiction is are concerned for you. And you begin to notice changes in yourself as well. You do things that concern yourself, like indulging in your addiction when you know it is not appropriate. You possibly even impair yourself in a situation where you know you could cause harm to yourself or others.
However, you believe that you are the master of yourself. You couldn’t possibly be an addict. You realize that you have made some bad decisions in the past, but you believe you are in control enough to stop them. Denial is truly an ugly thing. You decide to take a break the object of your addiction to prove these falsehoods to you. You have success for a time. You pat yourself on the back for knowing yourself so well. Then out of no where, the cravings begin to build, the stressful life events accumulate, and the opportunity to indulge arises at seemingly the perfect moment. You take the bait with ferocity and wake up to feelings of heavy shame.
Some people continue in this cycle for a long time. Some people decide that they cannot beat their addiction and accept it as part of their lifestyle until it ruins them or kills them. And some recognize it for what it is and decide that is has to come to an end. The people that arive at this conclusion are blessed with the potential to regain their lives and begin the restorative journey of recovery.